I find it mightily pathetic that certain people in this world have trouble controlling their emotions and the only way they know how to deal is to act out rashly at other people and making their day feel bad.

Certain people are well into their 20s and are still too immature to handle life situations with a clear mind and a steady hand. They still act like how 8yr olds act in the face of a perceived hostile situation. Note I said 'perceived' because sometimes a small little matter like "hey, who put the white napkins in the top drawer instead of the bottom drawer?" could lead to a major outburst full on with the fights and arguments and the whole lot of digging out past unresolved issues. Ugly.

And then certain people also do not know how to let go and forgive. These traits come as you grow into an effective adult. I choose to believe (although I dunno the exact mechanisms of the development of human personality lahhh) that a traumatised childhood deals a very hard stunting blow on the maturation of a human being into an adult who can function with rationality and what the layman would term 'normal'.

(I fear this topic goes into a winding road that leads nowhere.)

Essentially, and I'm sure most of you know this from other reading, a person's childhood (in addition to genetic factors) determines his/her behaviour, rationals and personality in his/her adult life. If you want, the Nurture vs Nature debate is a very interesting one to read up go google it.

This all boils down to the parents lah. If the parents nurtures the child with love and in a non-abusive environment, the child will grow up to be pleasant. Spoil the child with goodies and give him what he wants all the time, then the child will grow into a spoiled brat who is stubborn and must always have his way no matter what other people want, it's always their way or... the main road.

To deprive the child of love and raise him up in an environment where people argue over miniscule petty matters then the child will grow up into a short-tempered adult, not knowing any other way to resolve problems than to pick an argument with the opposing person. And this is the childhood most said certain people from the first paragraph have had.

It's a pity really. I guess what I'm trying to say, guy and girls (yea, I humbly know the extent of my readership), when you have kids, be nice to them. Beat them up when they're naughty but show them LOVE!! Bring them up in a loving environment. Obviously nothing in this world can ideally be ideal but we can do the best that we can. We don't want releasing intolerable miscreants into this world now do we?

But why do I bore my lovely readership with such tales? I should have studied Psychology!